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Imposter Syndrome

A lone seagull stands amidst a flock of pink flamingos, illustrating feelings of being an outsider or imposter.

Imposter Syndrome Imposter syndrome refers to an individual who feels insecure and underserved with their outer achievement, abilities and academic work. They often feel they are a fraud and feel guilty as if they tricked everyone thinking they are competent.…

送给喜欢打王者的你

Dynamic artwork featuring characters from 王者荣耀 (Honor of Kings) mobile game.

送给喜欢打王者的你 相信喜欢打“王者”的你,只要一响起“Timi”,坐在附近的家人一定会开始唠叨。 “又玩game?每天玩game,不用读书的咩?” “如果你读书有像你玩game这样,你一定是班上第一名。” “玩game 最重要是不是?在家什么都不用做!” 之类的话。。。 在我家也有一个这样的人存在:我弟弟。每次打开他的房门或到楼下网线比较强的地方,我都会看见他两只手紧握着电话、眼睛专注地注视着屏幕的情景。 我每次都会想,就算天塌下来他也应该会觉得是有人在帮他盖被吧?他也很无奈啊,客厅是其他人进进出出都能看到他的地方,可是只有客厅的网线最好。 其实有很多研究显示了游戏和攻击性没有关系。有人说玩这类游戏的人比较残暴,因为王者就是个一直杀人的游戏。可是我弟弟依然没有比我凶,呵呵。。。我只看见弟弟变得越来越佛系,能包容他家的母老虎们和这位很烦人的姐姐 (呵呵)。 和弟弟一起玩的朋友们,他们也都没有大人所说的残暴或脾气暴躁。再看看我家表妹玩到那么厉害了,性格却像只温驯的绵羊。 你们以为玩游戏真的只是纯粹娱乐?你懂吗,现在有很多公司聘请员工之前都可能会问你在游戏里的职位哦!近来我和几位 interns 陪我们老板玩“王者”,让我发觉到一个人在游戏里选的英雄能看得出一个人的性格。比如,游戏里的五种职位分别有:射手,辅助,上单,中单和打野。 射手 (Marksman) 射手通常都走下路,所谓的“拿钱路”。在这条路,通常都会有一位辅助跟在你身边。因为自己杀伤力大,打多了小兵自然很容易可以就解决敌人。在这条路杀伤力大的射手自己都会很帅和酷,通常在隔壁的辅助都没有什么份耍帅。喜欢玩射手的你或许是个比较冷静的人,想好了战略才会开始攻击,比较固执的一个人。要是比较冲动的人不适合当射手,不然就是个送人头的。就如一位射手,善于快速解决身边的敌人,也宁可快速解决身边的事物! 辅助(Support) 俗语说:“每个成功的男人背后都有一个女人”!辅助在游戏里就是一个这样的角色。有人说辅助脾气最好和拥有巨大的包容心,因为他们英雄的杀伤力最低,也必须常替队友代死或补命。尽管可能当不了 MVP, 下一次依然还是会选择当辅助,帮助其他队友赢得胜利。喜欢当辅助的你是个不在乎别人的看法,善于帮助其他人和适合当助手。有点像那种做 assignment 的时候,那位包山包海的队员! 上单:坦克 (Tanker)、战士 (Warrior)  负责走上单的都是坦克或战士。在王者里比如说是: 花木兰,亚瑟和曹操。负责走上单的可以说是在走 “孤儿路”,不会期待队友会来帮你,要是有队友来辅助都是个奇迹,是个很重要的角色。坦克负责扛伤,吃最毒的打挨最痛的扁,做得不好还会给人家骂,是个吃力不讨好的职位。从这,我们可以看到他们是一个很独立、愿意牺牲、勇敢和清楚知道自己目标的人。 中单:法师 (Mage) 通常走中路的都是法师,负责支援队友。推完中路的塔后,哪里需要他的帮助,他都会到。算是走来走去的职位,可以很轻松也可以很困难。喜欢走中单的人都是属于比较随机应变,对突入而来的事情都有能力想办法解决。能把中单玩得好的人都比较有远见和做事稳重! 打野(Fighter) 和 刺客 (Assassin)  打野和刺客的工作就在于需要思考整局怎样玩,必须在游戏开始前想好如何带领团队的节奏获胜。所以说打野的人都是比较聪明、领导能力强及有责任感!一个不出色的打野会连累到其他队员也打不起劲儿来。本人觉得最帅的打野是李白! 为了这篇文章,我一直问身边的朋友收集资料。我也重复问我弟弟他喜欢玩什么职位。三次他都回答:“我什么都玩。” “那你朋友呢?”…

Effect of No Consequences

Two weathered red signs warn "DO NOT ENTER" and "WRONG WAY," illustrating the effect of no consequences.

Effect of No Consequences “What if one day we have no rules to follow?” Malaysia went into multiple lockdowns and movement control orders to decrease the daily confirmed cases since March 2020. Front-liners work hard daily to ensure that Malaysian…

Privilege vs Responsibility

Tired cartoon character slumped over desk, illustrating the burdens of responsibility.

Privilege vs Responsibility “Rank does not confer privilege or give power. It imposes responsibility.” – Peter Drucker I picture my freedom while growing up as a farming game. The higher the level, the larger my farm is going to be,…

Don’t hold your tears

Woman in beige sweater and yellow pants, hand to her face, appearing emotional. Don't hold your tears.

Don’t Hold Your Tears “ A heart isn’t really an organ, it’s a gift that makes you feel. -ARINA The older we are, the lesser we cry. How many of us really wonder why? The older we are, the more…

Misconceptions about Counselling

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Misconceptions about Counselling 1. Why are people reluctant to visit counsellors? Counselling is only for orang gila. “Only people that go to Tanjung Rambutan see counsellors!” “You will be crazier after you see a counsellor.” Anyone including my friends and…

Kleptomania

Illustration of a hooded figure with outstretched hand; text reads "Kleptomania," "Ugh...I can't stop

KLEPTOMANIA Kleptomania (ke-lep-toh-ma-ni-ahh) refers to a disorder that has the urge to steal. People with kleptomania enjoy the process of stealing because it gives them the feeling of excitement and tension. You might think, “These people are just seeking for…

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